By Mattie
This is only my personal
testimony, not the proof of any study.
I am, as most of you already know, the oldest daughter of Christian an Christine. They have asked me to write this as a follow up to their testimony.
When I was about eight years
old, my mother decided to take me to see a psychologist, due to several issues
I was experiencing.
The main issues were a tremendous
fear of separation from my parents, to the point where it would make me
physically sick (throwing up, fevers and chill, etc...). EVERY time my parents
left, no matter the amount of time.
Another issue was my fierce
temper; I just couldn't get along with my mother. We were constantly fighting.
Of all our clashes, though, homework time was a nightmare (so much so that my
sister became an A+ student in order to avoid having to do homework with my
Mom) any kind of request from my mother would put me into a terrible rage.
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| Mattie, 8 years old |
We ended up having only one
visit with the psychologist and here's how it went:
First, Mom and I went in, the
psychologist asked Mom what the issues were, etc...
Then the psychologist made me
play a few games, draw a few things, and finally called Mom back in, actually
asking me to wait in the waiting room.
The psychologist discussed
with Mom her past, and my past, and Mom told her that she had had an abortion
three years before getting pregnant with me.
“That’s it!” the psychologist
said. “She knows about it! Subconsciously she knows about it! You have to tell
her, and tell her now!” Then she called me back in, and Mom painfully explained
to me what had happen, not getting into details because the psychologist was
still in the room.
Feeling confused, as though
the task was not finished, Mom took me to the park afterwards, and actually
talked to me about it in more detail and greater intimacy. We also prayed about it.
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| We sat in front of this fountain to talk |
Since then, I stopped panicking each time my parents had to leave and our relationship
has evolved tremendously. If my husband was not my best friend, I would say
that my mother is. We share many things together from scrapbooking to working
side by side in our family owned business!
It has also kept me from
making the same mistake. I avoided promiscuity and anything that could put me
in a situation where I would be at risk.
And this was in 1986! In
Socialist France! They know, the psychologists, the doctors, they know the
damage abortion creates! But the money is more essential to them. So please do
yourself and your children a favor. If you have had an abortion, share it with
them, let them know! It will truly heal your family! It will be hard, yes, but
SO worth it!
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| Mom and I |
